Selected Writing

Writing is how I process the thoughts swirling around in my head. These essays are the ideas I come back to again and again: the insights I share with my coaching clients, and honestly, the direct advice I'm not supposed to give them. In coaching we ask questions; here I get to just say the thing.

For the full collection of over 90 essays, visit my blog at yesitsfriday.com.

Calling all imposters: fake it till you make it

"We are all just winging it." The reframe that helped when performance reviews made you skim the praise and fixate on the one critical line.

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Unlock the cage: perfectionism

On the three-month leave that forced me to face my own perfectionism, and the small, uncomfortable actions that helped me trade impossibly high standards for something kinder.

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Be lazy and selfish

Permission to be strategic, not lazy: do less, prioritize yourself, and get off the hamster wheel.

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Stop doing everything: how to delegate effectively

A confession that delegation never came naturally, and the real reasons high achievers cling to work they should hand off: control, identity, guilt, and the fear that it'll reflect badly on them.

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How to be more confident

Confidence follows courage, not the other way around. Practical tactics, tested with over a hundred coaching clients and mentees, for acting before the certainty ever arrives.

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Picture this: the power of vision

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Why writing down what you want, even when it feels random, tends to become real. Includes a ten-minute exercise, and the story of the vision that became this book.

Core values: what they are and why they matter

On the exercise that replaced "what job title should I have" with something more useful: knowing what you're all about, and using it to actually make hard decisions.

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